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Posted on Saturday 25 August 2012 at 9:44 am

Month Meme - Days 21 & 22

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Ganked this from mrstater. Would love to see more people do it, if you've got any time at all!

Day 21: Who you have a crush on
I don't think I really have a crush on anyone at the moment. How boring. Sorry. I'll go ahead and do another day to give you something to read.

Day 22: A friendship you lost
When I was an undergrad and early in my MA program, my best friend was a woman named Stephanie. We met because she was sitting in our dorm laundry room one day waiting for her dryer to end when I came in to start some laundry. She was reading a Star Wars novel while waiting, so I started talking to her. We were best friends and spent all kinds of time together for about 5 years. Then she just stopped talking to me. I have no idea what happened. We didn't have any kind of fight or anything she just suddenly refused to come to the phone when I called (she was temporarily back at her parents' house), never answered my emails, and just ceased all communication. I really wish I knew what happened because the summer she stopped talking to me also happened to be the same summer I broke up with my boyfriend of three years and started getting really sick that eventually led to my Crohn's diagnosis. I really could have used my best friend that summer but apparently I didn't have her anymore and I have no explanation.

The spectacularly disastrous follow up is that after I moved out to Virginia, my mother wrote Stephanie a letter basically demanding that Stephanie explain herself. My mother said in her letter that I had requested that no one try to contact Stephanie anymore since she obviously didn't want to have anything to do with me but that since I wasn't there anymore my mom was contacting Stephanie without my knowledge or permission. My mom meant since I was in Virginia and no longer ever living at home like I had most summers during undergrad and my MA. Stephanie took my mom's no longer here to mean I had died, which was actually a plausible euphemistic reading of the exact language my mother used. So Stephanie's fiance found my sister's work email online and contacted her to ask about what had happened to me and said Stephanie was really upset and crying and my sister assured him I wasn't dead and I sent an email to the last address I had for Stephanie saying I wasn't dead. We never heard back from Stephanie.

About a year after that, I got an email from the fiance saying that Stephanie had just suddenly dumped him with no warning or explanation, wanting to know what had happened between Stephanie and I, and after I replied explaining what had happened, asking me if I thought maybe Stephanie was bi-polar or had some other illness that might explain the sudden abandonment of both her best friend and fiance at different points. That was years ago and I haven't heard anything since.

The Days of the Meme
1. Your name
2. All the places you've lived
3. Your first best friend
4. Your childhood fears
5. What you were like in high school
6. Your favourite and least favourite subjects at school
7. Your first boyfriend or girlfriend
8. Your oldest hobby
9. Your sexuality
10. What you look for in a partner
11. Your kids, or your feelings about having kids
12. Your pets, past and present
13. Foods you love and foods you hate
14. What your life was like ten years ago
15. How much alcohol you drink
16. Your worst illness
17. What you do at work
18. A question or comment people should never make to you
19. The style of clothing you feel most comfortable in
20. Whether you’re an extrovert or an introvert
21. Who you have a crush on
22. A friendship you lost
23. Three achievements you’re proud of
24. Your political views
25. Your religious beliefs
26. Your perfect night out
27. Whether you like to plan ahead or be spontaneous
28. What you look for in a friend
29. Whether you’re a night owl or a morning lark
30. How you would like people to remember you

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